Do you believe in fate?
I mostly don’t. But sometimes, I must admit it feels like there’s an invisible hand putting me and some people together, only to later tearing us apart just for fun.
But again, I think it’s just because we choose our own destiny.
I first saw her when we were both in junior high. We were in a train station, waiting to go to a resort for a church’s 3-day-2-night activity. She was leaning against the wall, with her arms across her chest, smiling. That’s a pretty smile, I thought.
“This is Angie*,” someone told me.
September 21, 1999.
It was an ordinary night. Warm and humid, like any other typical September night in Taiwan. My wife Leah had just had surgery for her melanoma and needed absolute peace and quiet, so I slept with our almost-two-year-old son Mike in the next room. Our six-month-old boy Ben was at a friend’s house. She volunteered to babysit for us so both Leah and I could get a bit more rest.
It was a difficult time for us. Just graduated from college in Hawaii, we were planning to go right back to America for graduate school, but Leah’s…
I’m from Taiwan, a small island next to mainland China. With an area of a little more than half of West Virginia, we squeeze a population bigger than Florida. When I was a kid, to get into senior high schools or colleges, one should pass the annual entrance exams. Many had spent years taking them. I guess in our Asians’ minds, education is too precious a resource not to be shared by everyone.
When I entered junior high (7th grade in America), the whole grade was divided into 3 sections based on students’ “aptitude:” A, B, and C. Only students…
Graduate schools are expensive. According to this article in U.S. News, a two-year full-time graduate program can cost $100,000; more if you’re thinking about a Ph.D. Unless you have a rich dad or uncle, pursuing a graduate degree either is only a dream or leaves you in serious debt that you might not be able to pay off.
Assuming you’ve calculated and thought through the whole thing, and you’ve come to the conclusion that a graduate degree is your ultimate goal. Now, how can you pay for it?
First, let me briefly tell you about my personal journey to my Ph.D. Hopefully, it gives you an idea about what it takes, and what you might be able to do if you want a Ph.D. with a limited budget too.
When I arrived in Hawaii for college, I had a small bank account and barely knew enough English to communicate. Before coming to America, one of my best friends questioned me on the phone: “Do you have enough money? Do you have enough language skills?”
“That’s stupid. …
Netflix released a TV series, The One, which is a sci-fi thriller about a world with this amazing technology: they can find you the perfect partner, your true soulmate, with a simple DNA test. Such an interesting idea, and that inspires the most fundamental question: Why do you fall in love with this person but not another one? Remember your college days or maybe a workplace, you might have had a few relationships. Though there might be many similar choices, you ended up with Jessica/James. Why?
This is in fact a huge, complicated question that psychologists are still working hard…
Turkey and chicken are among the healthier choices of meat comparing to red meat. Now, some people might wonder which is healthier: turkey or chicken? According to Ansley Hill, a registered dietitian nutritionist, they aren’t significantly different. Keri Gans, another registered dietitian, also pointed out that though breast meat usually is leaner than thigh/drumstick dark meat, the fat difference is very small. Therefore, we have reason to believe that either turkey or chicken drumstick is pretty much equally good. In general, it is recommended to cut back red meat consumption, as Cleveland Clinic suggested. …
I’ve been in Medium since the end of March 2021. During these about 3 ½ months I’ve published 30+ articles, and have been extremely, extremely lucky to have one that went moderately viral and has made some money. Considering I was only looking for a place to educate my students and to tell my uncle’s story in the beginning and didn’t expect much, this is a very pleasant surprise.
Of course, however, that’s not saying there are no downsides.
1. This is a place to have your voice — and get paid. In the beginning, I wrote a couple articles…
Mark and Julian work in the same company, but they can’t be more different. Mark is overly concerned about making mistakes and what people will think of him, and he’s often depressed and feeling lonely. Sometimes when he does something right he feels good about himself, but it can easily be erased when he commits a blunder; in fact, he becomes even sadder: “I’m a loser.” He gets sick often, especially during or after a stressful event.
Julian, on the other hand, feels entitled no matter what. She always recounts her achievements and implies that other people are imbeciles, that…
Quite a few articles were posted since the beginning of May. Check them out!
First of all, this new article: There Are Different Types of Low Self-Esteem — and One of Them Is Especially Detrimental is especially important. Understanding ourselves is the very first key to better ourselves and our lives. I’ve learned a lot when I did the research for this article, I believe it’ll help you too and would like to strongly recommend it!
If you need to make certain critical decisions in your life but aren’t sure how, A Decision-Making Tool I Learned When I…
I’m an associate professor in psychology at a small university in southern New Mexico. I like playing musical instruments, basketball, and writing stories.