Do you believe in fate?
I mostly don’t. But sometimes, I must admit it feels like there’s an invisible hand putting me and some people together, only to later tearing us apart just for fun.
But again, I think it’s just because we choose our own destiny.
I first saw her when we were both in junior high. We were in a train station, waiting to go to a resort for a church’s 3-day-2-night activity. She was leaning against the wall, with her arms across her chest, smiling. That’s a pretty smile, I thought.
“This is Angie*,” someone told me.
September 21, 1999.
It was an ordinary night. Warm and humid, like any other typical September night in Taiwan. My wife Leah had just had surgery for her melanoma and needed absolute peace and quiet, so I slept with our almost-two-year-old son Mike in the next room. Our six-month-old boy Ben was at a friend’s house. She volunteered to babysit for us so both Leah and I could get a bit more rest.
It was a difficult time for us. Just graduated from college in Hawaii, we were planning to go right back to America for graduate school, but Leah’s…
I’m from Taiwan, a small island next to mainland China. With an area of a little more than half of West Virginia, we squeeze a population bigger than Florida. When I was a kid, to get into senior high schools or colleges, one should pass the annual entrance exams. Many had spent years taking them. I guess in our Asians’ minds, education is too precious a resource not to be shared by everyone.
When I entered junior high (7th grade in America), the whole grade was divided into 3 sections based on students’ “aptitude:” A, B, and C. Only students…
Graduate schools are expensive. According to this article in U.S. News, a two-year full-time graduate program can cost $100,000; more if you’re thinking about a Ph.D. Unless you have a rich dad or uncle, pursuing a graduate degree either is only a dream or leaves you in serious debt that you might not be able to pay off.
Assuming you’ve calculated and thought through the whole thing, and you’ve come to the conclusion that a graduate degree is your ultimate goal. Now, how can you pay for it?
First, let me briefly tell you about my personal journey to my Ph.D. Hopefully, it gives you an idea about what it takes, and what you might be able to do if you want a Ph.D. with a limited budget too.
When I arrived in Hawaii for college, I had a small bank account and barely knew enough English to communicate. Before coming to America, one of my best friends questioned me on the phone: “Do you have enough money? Do you have enough language skills?”
“That’s stupid. …
I think it’s fair to say that in this modern society, the majority of people have to ask for a recommendation letter at some point in their lives. After all, the majority of higher education institutes and jobs require it; in many cases more than one. Don’t think this is just a formality: recommendation letters can be critical on a job (e.g., Dowd, 2021), college (e.g., Laskaris, 2020), or graduate program application (e.g., Tay, 2020). However, since I started my teaching career, I’ve been surprised by the fact that many people have no clue how to ask for one. …
Inflammation in our body is a normal, healthy response; it becomes a problem only when it is a long-term condition due to particular habits. According to Harvard Health Publishing (2019, 2020), inflammation is when our immune system fights off foreign invaders, but certain lifestyle (e.g., smoking or constant consumption of foods high in sugar) can evoke lingering immune responses that lead to serious illnesses like heart disease or diabetes, and one of the best ways to prevent or treat the condition is to eat foods with anti-inflammation effects.
When my mom gave birth to me, she was 11 days short of her 19th birthday. She was a kid herself.
A few years later, she met some young missionaries from America. They volunteered to preach the gospel for the church without pay for 2 years when they turned 19. These boys were (still are) very, very popular among girls/women in Taiwan. In fact, in our mind, people who speak English are better humans; if they’re White, especially from America, they’re put on a pedestal and worshipped.
She got baptized right away, though I’m not sure for the right reason…
If you’re a woman, try to do this quick survey: Which man will you prefer for a mate?
Mr. A: Short, thin, careful committed, chivalrous, and sexually faithful.
Mr. B: Dark, roguishly handsome self-interested scoundrel, never be faithful.
I believe most female readers will consider this as a no-brainer choice: Mr. A, of course, if they’re the only choices. Who would want an immature playboy having affairs on every Tuesday behind your back as a mate?
Author and journalist Anna Quindlen surveyed her readers on this question, and indeed that was what most women said. However, when she asked a…
The other day I met a stranger who happened to be a hardcore Trump supporter. He was respectful, but insisted that Trump was the only one who could save this nation. When I named a few of his questionable behaviors, he asked: “Where do you get the information? Mainstream media?”
This deep distrust of mainstream media is one very specific characteristic among many republicans and people who support Trump. In fact, he and his supporters distrust science, experts, and any government agencies that report the news they don’t like to hear. …
I’m an associate professor in psychology at a small university in southern New Mexico. I like playing musical instruments, basketball, and writing stories.