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Stop Blaming Your Parents for Your Problems, or Blaming Yourself for Your Child’s Problems
Cause parenting is NOT as influential as you think — or, it’s influential in an unpredictable way
In mid-April, 2021, a 19-year-old former employee entered a FedEx facility in Indianapolis and opened fire, killing 8 people before pointing the gun at himself. His family later issued an apology and explained that they tried to get him the help he needed. Tragedies like that always prompt us to wonder the causes behind the horrendous, unforgivable behavior; besides mental illness, many question the perpetrators’ early experience — in other words: “What kind of parents produce this kind of evil people?” I’m sure even if people don’t ask, their parents most likely will ask themselves: “What did I do wrong?”
Whenever people accomplish something amazing, many suggest the parents be the force behind the achievement. For example, Michael Jordan’s mother is always credited to be one important factor in his success. Don’t you see many award recipients thank their parents (seems mostly mothers)?
No wonder there are so many parenting books and experts. We all want our children to be happy and successful (though sometimes they can be two different goals). We sincerely believe that parents…
